Shepherding a Child’s Heart Ch. 2 and 3

by Carrie Raab on April 9, 2012

Shepherding a Child’s Heart

Shepherding A Child's Heart

This week we will be sharing Ch. 2 and 3. Please join me, Amanda Pelser, and several other moms on this book club journey week after week going over Ted Tripp’s book, Shepherding a Child’s Heart.

Ted discusses ‘shaping influences’ in Ch. 2, meaning that our children are shaped by the circumstances around them and how they interact and accept those circumstances.  For instance, what are the values in your home? What do you spend the most time talking about and focusing on? Are your conversations worldly or do your conversations always point to and lead you back to Christ?  How are disappointments handled?  Are problems discussed or shoved under the rug? All of these questions shape your child’s influence.

However, this does not determine who your child is or becomes. In Scripture we read, He is the Potter and we are the clay.  Ted beautifully points out in his book, “The clay responds to shaping; it either accepts or rejects molding.”  That is so true! When you are training and discipling your child, he has the ability to accept or reject your parenting.  He can either obey or disobey.  The choice will determine the course of his/her heart.  Your child’s heart determines the response.  Once again, it is about the HEART.  It is always about the heart.

Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

The Heart is Not Neutral

Our children have a choice, just like we, as parent do.  We either obey the Word of God or we disobey. Our children are no different. When they are disobedient to us, they are ultimately disobedient to the Lord.  That is what we need to focus on.  We need to see that our children are choosing to sin and go against God’s word/will for their life or they are choosing to obey and honor Him.  Our children are NOT to please us, they are to please God! We need to train our children to  follow, honor and obey God, for their heart is not neutral.  Their heart always follows something. 

Can you see that the heart is not neutral? We worship and follow something, always.  This is why God says there shalt be no other Gods before me.  We are no different than our children.  The world is constantly throwing distractions at us. What is it that is distracting you or your children? I know for my household it is electronics. It is no wonder that the IPhone, IPod, IPad all have an I in front of its name. Notice it is called the “I” Phone… “I”, “I”, “I”. (haha!) Isn’t it so true?! Electronics is what we battle with and what I see as an idol from time to time in our home.  We as christians are not to be earthly minded, but heavenly. Parenting must address these idols of the heart. These things “in the world” want to rule and control our children’s heart, and ours too. It is our job, as the parents to constantly direct them to God’s heart, His will, not their own. Foolishness is bound up in the heart of the child and we are to drive it out with the sword of the Spirit, the living, active, powerful word of God.

As a parent, do you see idols in your child’s heart? What and whom will they worship? Will you join me in prayer and pray for the hearts of our children. They are the next generation and we want them to be world changers for Christ. Share with me your thoughts. I would love to hear from you. Bless you and see you next week  for Ch. 4 and 5.

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Teresa from April 17, 2012 at 10:04 pm

Stopping by from Inspire Me Monday….I know it’s Tuesday, I’m a nana, I’m slow!
Love your blog. You obviously have a heart for the Lord. Blessings to you! Visit me at somtime.



Carrie Raab April 18, 2012 at 1:51 pm

Hey Teresa! Thank you so much for stopping by! Bless you for your kinds words. I will definitely stop by. Thanks! Have a beautiful day! :) Come and check out this weeks post on Ch. 4 and 5 if you get a chance :)


Denise April 17, 2012 at 4:06 pm

Much wisdom here.


Carrie Raab April 17, 2012 at 4:10 pm

Thanks Denise! Bless you!


Laura April 12, 2012 at 5:41 am

Thanks for sharing. Such wisdom.


Carrie Raab April 12, 2012 at 1:23 pm

Hey Laura! Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with me. I am glad you did because I visited your blog-love it! Bless you and may you always behold His glory!


Kelli April 11, 2012 at 8:33 pm

The heart is not neutral. That is one of the best statements from these chapters. Its one or the other, there is no middle ground when it comes to the decisions of the heart. I loved your statement of, “Our children are not to please us, they are to please God.” This I forget often.


Carrie Raab April 12, 2012 at 1:24 pm

Hey Kelli! Yes, our heart always gravitates towards something-key concept to grasp and know what is leading, stirring, and motivating your heart. Thanks for reading it and sharing your sweet comment. Bless you!


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