Release Your Kids to God

by Carrie Raab on February 9, 2012

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How to Have a Heart for Your Kids- Release Your Kids to God


Today I will be sharing Chapter 4 in Rachael Carmen’s book, How to Have a HEART For Your Kids.  I have been writing my thoughts on each chapter, so if you have missed the first 3, please go and find them listed under the header “homeschooling.

Release Your Kids to God

I have loved every chapter, but this one just put a fire in my belly as I was reading it and I kept shouting in agreement with my yes’s and Amen’s! I love Rachael’s heart and passion for the Lord and she is speaking my language! Don’t you just love a book like that? You agree with every word and it bears witness with your spirit. It confirms so much in your heart and with your beliefs.

Last chapter we discussed accepting our children and realizing they are not our own.  They are on loan, as I like to say. They are gifts from God, sent to us BY God and FOR God! Wow…ponder that! :) Do you trust God with your children? Do you believe that “He who began a good work in them will carry it on to completion, in Christ Jesus”? Do you confess that with your lips, but not believe in your heart? Allow your heart to go deep with these questions!

A section in this chapter is called, “This gets easier, right?” I can so relate to how parenting does get harder when you are in the teenage years, versus the infant, toddler, elementary years. These are the years when the “deep- heart to heart conversations” really start taking place! There are countless nights that my husband and I find ourselves up till nearly midnight just “talking” with our teenage son.  The discussions are real, intense, sometimes painful, awkward, yet necessary and so fulfilling.  We always tell our children, “We are a safe place-our home, your parents- we are the ones you share and can safely talk about any and everything with.” I did NOT say it was easy or comfortable, BUT, I do want my children to come to my husband and I for everything and hear the truth from us and not be afraid to ask. We will not lead them astray! We will guide them into all truth, we will share the love of Christ with them, speak life and truth into them and share God’s word. After the discussion, release your kids to God. This is hard when we are training and raising them, yet, ultimately, it is their relationship with the Lord. We are training them to learn authority, which will one day be solely between them and God, not us, them and God. Yikes! I think the older your kids get, the easier it is to release them over to the Lord(as least it has been for me).

Do you see the vision for your children? Do you see where God is leading and calling them? I know I didn’t have a vision for my children when they were infants or toddlers, but now that they are 10 and 13, I can see the call on their life and the plans He has for them. My oldest, when he was 8 years old, had a journal for school and it was through my son’s writing that I discovered the call on his life and what God was speaking to his heart. My son wrote this in his journal:

Q: What would you do if you had a million dollars? A: “If I had a million dollars I would use it to help other people.”

Release your kids to God

Q: “If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?” A: “If I could go anywhere in the world I would go everywhere to be a missionary. I would go to China. I would go to Japanese. I would go to South America. I would go to Canada. I would go to Antartica.” 

Can I just tell you when I read that in my son’s journal I was shocked! Stunned! I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I thought to myself, “Who is this kid?” “Where did he come up with this?”  Now, of course, I knew it was GOD, but I was still in awe knowing that God was calling my son to be a missionary at the age of 8.  We had never discussed missions as a family. This was the beginning of God opening our hearts and bringing my son’s vision into the NOW for our entire family! God birthed missions through our son and used our son to step into our calling as a family, our destiny. My husband and I decided we needed to take our son on a mission’s trip to fulfill his call, yet, we soon realized it was our call as well! Missions is now a call on the entire family and we long to GO! (for more on that, click here).

Rachael emphasizes the importance of us teaching Christ first and foremost and academics second. I know this is of no shock to you, as this is what Christian families desire. However, it is a challenge as a homeschool mom to keep this in balance. Their education is on our shoulders, but we also know and must remember God is doing the greater work in them and when we yield to Him, we must trust that He will guide and teach them.

Rachael discusses Hannah and Samuel in Scripture. Hannah raised Samuel differently! I love that! My kids sometimes struggle with how “different” we raise them – even different than other Christian households. They do not understand why other Christian families allow their kids to watch certain TV shows or movies. They ask why families buy certain video games and also allow them to have them on their I touch and we can’t? My husband and I have resolved to raise our kids 100% sold out for the Lord! We are NOT religious or legalistic! We know God’s word, His heart, His will over our lives and we will NOT bow down to the world and “keep up with the Jones’.” I no longer have to follow my peers, or worry about what they think. I used to live in fear- “fear of man/ man pleasing spirit.” But, GOD has freed me from that life of bondage and I no longer have to please man, I live to please God! :) It is SO freeing being able to live this way!

We have to have conversation after conversation with our children as to why we do not like these cartoons, TV channels, movies, video games, etc. It is not easy, but the Lord says to stand firm and to not waiver in your faith. I choose therefore, to stand- to stand my ground and not give in to pleasing men and justifying it -“it is ok, it is only a movie, it is rated G or PG, what can it hurt.” (The devil will do anything to dumb down God’ word and fool believers into thinking it is ok… “just one bite… surely you won’t die!”  Know his schemes my friends. He goes about roaring like a lion waiting to devour someone. Do not fall into his traps!)

We wonder why our children have bad dreams? We wonder why we live in fear? We wonder why our kids say demeaning words, have attitudes, etc… sure, it is their sinful nature, yet it is also learned behavior. *What you behold, you become!!!*  If your child is watching a certain movie or TV show, you bet that is going into their mind, their soul, their spirit.  Parents, please know I am speaking this in love… we must see the ‘fine line’ in what we allow our children to watch!! Their is SO much that happens in the “spirit” realm that our “natural” eyes are blind to- BUT, once the Holy Spirit opens your eyes, you will see the demonic realm at work (You will also see the heavenly realm). We must tune our spiritual senses to be like the Lord’s. We must watch our eye and ear gates! We must give our natural senses over to the Lord and use our spiritual senses! :) We must guard our hearts. We must teach our children to think on those things that are lovely, true, right, pure, holy and worthy of all praise. We must teach our children ‘purity’ and to avoid the lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh. Our children are “the next generation” and we want them to take the baton and run the race harder, faster, hungrier and more on fire for God than we are! Our ceiling should be their floor! That is my heart’s desire for my children. I want to leave a legacy that they carry on higher and deeper for the Lord!

I love how Rachael points out that some of our children will be a Billy Graham, Jim Elliot, Mary Slessor, William Carey,… SO true! I love this quote: “All of these people had moms who pointed them toward God and nurtured their dreams, talents and gifts: moms who dared to let them go to where He called them; moms who didn’t settle for a life of ease but who prayed through the night watch; moms who dared to trust, ….moms who dared to give their children back to God for His service.”

Are you raising your children as if they are world changers? Dare to dream BIG with God! God always does more than we can ask, seek, or imagine! As Rachael says, “What might God do with a generation prayed for, prayed over, and prayed with?” May we all say, YES LORD! Here I am Lord, Send ME!!! Send our children!!! Use us for your glory!

I can’t emphasize enough a mom staying on her knees and praying for her children. Do not wait until they are teenagers to start praying for their purity or for them to not be rebellious. Start NOW! Pray now for their hearts to be pure and undefiled before the Lord. Pray now for them to have clean hands and a pure heart. Pray now for their “spouses”(yes, pray for the one they will marry someday) to love the Lord with all of their heart, mind, soul and strength. I gather typically twice a month with friends at church to be ‘watchmen on the wall’ and we stay up all night and pray from midnight to 6 am. God is SO worth it! We pray, we have praise and worship, we rest in His presence and just glorify Him. It is such a sweet time to pray for family, friends, the church, unbelievers, those needing physical/mental/emotional healing, any and everything. There is nothing like being with the Lord and in His presence. Our prayers will mold and shape the next generation. It is so worth it to pray and contend for God’s Kingdom to advance! That is what we are after! We want MORE of God and we want to seek His face and behold His glory! Who will stand in the gap with me and fight for our children’s future? This is a spiritual battle and God is looking for a people who will hunger after Him. 

Let’s be a chosen generation eagerly seeking His face, bringing glory to His name and allowing heaven to invade earth. May His will be done on earth, as it is in heaven!

“Release your kids to God.” They are His. Watch God move. Love them, release them, and allow them to be all that God has called and created them to be. :)

Thanks for reading! I pray you were blessed by the post and enjoy hearing about Rachael’s book.

{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

Sherryl Land September 27, 2014 at 5:08 pm

Hi Carrie, I enjoyed the write up I’m a born again believer My husband & I have been in ministry since oldest children were 13, 4, they are now 23 & 31 we also have a13 & 17!yr old now… We have always lived a Godly life before them we taught & teach them the word when they rise up we have made it as fro lets on their forehead…. But the oldest have not walked in there call my oldest is a prayer Warrior has been on the prayer team now he’s backslidding my issue is learning how to really release them to God he has told me tseveral times through my 1st Lady to release them because their hindering my call that God has on me But I truly don’t know how I love God & I love ministryvI want to know how to this the right & truly release because I don’t want to God flow of praying his souls into the Kingdom. May God bless you for sharing.


Shanda Oakley February 22, 2012 at 3:03 am

Wow…I did all this. I even loved my boys visions when they were 13.. Now they are 21 and have rejected much of what they were taught. Yet, we did our best and have to trust God that He will bring them back to him. On the good side, my daughter has the heart I always prayed for.


Carrie Raab February 27, 2012 at 11:25 pm

Hey Shanda… so sorry about your boys’. I will continue to pray and instill God’s word on their hearts and have to trust God that they will stay on His straight and narrow path. Don’t give up hope on your boys! God is faithful and His word will not return void! Bless you!


Shari March 12, 2012 at 6:40 pm

I too, have two grown children (21 and 20) who have turned their backs on God. I pray all the time for Him to reveal Himself to them, and put my trust that He will bring them back. But it is a daily struggle. It’s so hard as a Mom to really let that go and fully trust that the Father has it all under His control.

I think I really need to read this book.


Carrie Raab March 13, 2012 at 2:39 pm

Hey Shari! I feel your heart and the pain you are enduring. I know you trust the Lord and He is faithful and all of your prayers will not go unanswered or unheard. Stay strong, keep the faith. The book is an excellent read. I hope my posts have encouraged you and not brought frustration. Blessings to you and thank you so much for sharing your heart. Will keep you in my thoughts and pray in agreement with you for the Holy Spirit to come upon them with Godly conviction and bring them back to the Father. He loves you!!!

Dianna Kennedy February 19, 2012 at 1:27 am

Girl, you know how to make a pregnant lady cry!

I love this thought, and there are so many people who don’t see this. My husband said these words to me(about our children being on loan to us from God)very soon after our first daughter was born. It was such a powerful reminder for me of God’s grace and love for us, and what an amazing task we have set out before us as parents.

I’m with Jennifer … this book is going on my must read list after Lent!

Thanks so much for stopping by Saints and Scripture Sundays! I’m enjoying watching this series unfold.


Carrie Raab February 19, 2012 at 10:49 pm

Hey Dianna! Thank YOU for reading my post and I am praising God that it spoke to your heart. I really appreciate your feedback and kind remarks. You will enjoy the book. Grateful to link up and share our hearts and give God the highest praise! Blessings to you and your little bundle of joy!!


Jennifer February 15, 2012 at 1:47 am

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this book. I think I’m going to read it after I finish Bible in 90 Days.

My 8-year-old surprised me not long ago when she said, “If I ever have to go to jail, I hope it’s for my Christian faith.” She has such a heart for God. It blesses my heart!

Happy Valentine’s Day!


Carrie Raab February 15, 2012 at 2:53 am

Hey Jennifer! It is a great book, you will love it! I love your daughter’s statement… I told my husband-one of the sweetest things I’ve heard in a long time! She will do great exploits for the King! Continue being the wonderful mom that you are! Blessings and thanks for reading my posts! :)


Susan February 13, 2012 at 1:26 pm

Thank you for sharing this post with “Look What We Did!” Powerful words!


Carrie Raab February 14, 2012 at 3:17 am

Thank you Susan for your comment and reading my post! Bless you!


Clytie February 12, 2012 at 1:17 am

I loved seeing your son’s journal pages – what a precious calling! I’m so glad you are nurturing this desire. Your example to your children will be what affects them most as they grow into adulthood.


Carrie Raab February 14, 2012 at 3:18 am

Thank you Clytie for reading and your kind words! Love your blog and always sharing and getting encouragement! Blessings to you!


Jen ~ Gricefully Homeschooling February 9, 2012 at 8:23 pm

I totally agree with what you are saying! I also felt Rachael speaking my heart language…something I felt but she put it into words. Thank you for your encouragement as I learn to raise my children to be the next “world changers”. It’s not easy…yes, at times painful…much harder the older kids get…but with God all things are possible…He is my strength…He is my Rock! Thanks for being a friend! Much Love! ~ Jen


Carrie Raab February 9, 2012 at 11:53 pm

Hey Jen! Bless you and all that you are doing for the Lord and raising “Kingdom Kids!” Love how you love the Lord and trust Him! You are leaving a beautiful legacy to your children! Stand FIRM! Bless you friend! :)


kelli- AdventurezInChildREaring February 9, 2012 at 7:29 pm

“clean hands and a pure heart” – love it! I love your children – you’ll be happy to hear – we have taken the tv OUT of our house- I didn’t even let Parker watch Sponge Bob until he was older and knew how to behave – because of the “foolishness” :) I love love your children – it is obvious that their hearts are turned towards Him. I know your desire and heart for the Lord too & God is blessing it! This one put a fire in my belly too! I don’t have the right to them – they are HIS !!!!! It’s ALL about HIM!


Carrie Raab February 9, 2012 at 11:51 pm

Hey Kelli! Yes and amen!!! Thanks for your kind words in regards to my boys. Definitely constant work, but the blessings show forth! Much love and prayer to you and your precious family! Keep the FIRE alive and let it spread!!! :)


Pearl February 9, 2012 at 6:04 pm

I love this. I used to pray for my boys all the time from my old book, power of a praying parent. Somehow I lost track of that. Thanks for posting this. I feel inspired to dig those old books again. 😉 x


Carrie Raab February 9, 2012 at 11:47 pm

Pearl! It is so refreshing to receive an encouraging word! Thanks! Glad you liked it and it inspired you! You are a blessing! :)


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