Shepherding A Child’s Heart Chapter 1

by Carrie Raab on April 2, 2012

Shepherding A Child’s Heart Introduction and Chapter 1

Shepherding A Child's Heart Tedd Tripp

I am teaming up with Amanda Pelser and other amazing Christian women each week to share and discuss Tedd Tripp’s Shepherding A Child’s Heart Book.  We thoroughly enjoyed our online book club last time around and so we are joining hands again. Feel free to join as well. This week we will be discussing the Introduction and Chapter 1 of the book.

Tedd begins the introduction saying that today’s parents are frustrated and confused. He feels we have lost the authority we have as parents. We basically fear being parents and raising our children today and expect problems to grow with our children once they turn into adolescence.

“The purpose of this book is to assert that this situation is not hopeless,” says Tripp. The safety guide is found in the Bible.  We, as parents, are also their guide, under God’s wisdom and authority.

I love these two quotes:

  • “You exercise authority as God’s agent. You may not direct your children for our own agenda or convenience. You must direct your children on God’s behalf for their good.”
  • “The purpose for your authority in their lives of your children is not to hold them under your power, but to empower them to be self controlled people living freely under the authority of God.”

Such great nuggets of truth! I can be reminded of that a time or two, anyone else?! I think I am going to memorize this second quote! Wanna join me? We must empower our children! Yes! That is key! Think about it. When we control our children, we are focusing on “behavior”, but when we empower our children we are focusing on the “heart.”

The Good Shepherd

We, as parents, are to shepherd our children. Can’t you see this picture? Just as Jesus is the GOOD SHEPHERD and He leads and guides us, we too, are to be that model and reflection for our children. We teach and learn them in the ways that they should go and when they are old, they will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).

I love God’s symbolism all throughout the Word. It is so profound, yet so simple.  It makes me think of the verse in 1 Corinth. 4:16 where Paul says, “Imitate me, as I imitate Christ.”  We, as parents are to do just that. We are to be imitators of Christ to our children, a reflection of Him. How are you modeling Christ to your children? How is your relationship with the Good Shepherd? Are you beholding Him, Jesus, or are you beholding something else? What you behold, you become. Let’s behold our maker! Let’s be imitators of Christ. I do not want to imitate me (Carrie), I want to imitate Christ. I am not a good reflection, but He certainly is. Let’s pray and encourage one another in parenting our children. Won’t you join me and commit to praying for your friends who are raising children? We know prayer changes things.

Shepherding Our Children- The Heart

shepherding a child's heart

Shepherding our children is an inside outside job. The focus of Tedd Tripp’s book is about the inside, the heart, of the child.  It is always about the heart. When we train our children, we focus on the heart, not merely the outward appearance or behavior.  When we focus on the behavior, we are not getting to the “ROOT” of the issue. Scripture clearly teaches you this. Some great verses to meditate on and to memorize with your children are:

  • man focuses on the outward appearance, but God focuses on the heart
  • as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he
  • above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it
  • out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks

Another statement that I love that Tedd writes is this, ” If you really want to help your children, you must be concerned with the attitudes of the heart that drives behavior.”  Isn’t that rich? So true!

When our heart strays from God, so does our behavior! When we fail to listen to and obey God’s voice, our actions and reactions become wrong. So… moms/dads, this is my verse and prayer over you right now… “Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we will not give up.” 

STOP!  Did you get that?  We WILL reap a harvest, IF we do NOT GIVE UP. 


So… let us run this race… put your running shoes on… it is a marathon, not a sprint!

Question for you: What vision do you have for your children that is worth fighting for? Do you find yourself focusing more on the behavior of your children and not their heart? Why do you think that is? Come share with me your answers.

One thing I do know is that grace is “messy.”  When we parent under “law” and not “grace” we set a bunch of rules and standards and this is “outward” training… “behavior” training.. but, when we parent under “grace” -which we have freely been given by the Lord Jesus himself- this is “inward” training or “heart” training. It is not easy, but we can do ALL things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us.  Just as He is not looking for perfection in US, we too should not be expecting perfection in our children. God is always about the HEART, so moms and dads, let us be about the Father’s business too! :)

Together we conquer, divided we fall. Let’s fight and run the race together and raise up mighty warriors for the Kingdom of God!

Stay tuned… we have 18 chapters still to share! There is plenty of time to get the book and join us!


{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Susan April 7, 2012 at 2:28 am

It sounds like you’ve found a book that truly means a lot to you! Thanks for sharing with Favorite Resources.


Carrie Raab April 7, 2012 at 8:01 pm

Yes, I have read this book quite a few times, and it has been a few years, so the refresher is nice. God is always speaking and fresh revelation of truth is good for me. I am parenting now a teen, so this book is great to keep me focused on going after the heart- and keeps me focused on my own as well. Thanks for stopping by! Bless you Susan


pam acosta April 6, 2012 at 6:02 pm

hi how do i join the book club?


Carrie Raab April 6, 2012 at 6:48 pm

Hey Pam! Thanks for your interest in joining! I have sent your email to Amanda! Blessings!


pam acosta April 6, 2012 at 6:01 pm

how do i join the book club? thanks


Kathy April 4, 2012 at 6:53 pm

Thanks for sharing this post…I plan on reading more posts. I’m an avid book reader and am excited about the online book club!


Kelli April 4, 2012 at 4:59 pm


I have heard so much about you from Kelli @AdventurezInChildRearing.

Great post. I will definitely join you in praying for our children.


Carrie Raab April 4, 2012 at 6:52 pm

Hey Kelli! Thanks so much for stopping by and for praying in agreement with our children! Thanks for your kind words! Blessings!


kelli- AdventurezInChildREaring April 2, 2012 at 10:49 pm

getting ready for the marathon! so glad to be doing this book club with you – my sweet friend 😉


Carrie Raab April 3, 2012 at 3:51 pm

Hey Kelli! Feeling is mutual, my friend! Glad to be marathon partners… and… on the ‘boat’ together… :)


Eileen @ Ordained Praise April 2, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Profound yet simple! This is so true!


Carrie Raab April 2, 2012 at 8:48 pm

Hey Eileen! Thanks for stopping by! Simplicity is key… if we could only grasp that! Have a blessed week :)


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